If you are feeling unhappy with the way you use pornography and are finding it difficult to gain control of your usage, here is the first of Porn Recovery UK’s tips to help.

You need to decide what your relationship with porn is going to be. Do you want to stop using it altogether? Is your goal simply to stop using Internet porn? Are you happy to view or use softcore sex videos or erotica on the Internet but still view hardcore sex on R18 rated DVDs from sex shops? Psychotherapist and author of Turned On: Intimacy in a Pornized Society Duncan E. Stafford says: ‘The first step in recovery is to decide what you really want to do. If the impetus for change comes from within you, then you are far more likely to be successful.’ So, sit down with a piece of paper or a blank word document and write your goals for change. Keep the list somewhere so you can go back and look at what you have decided.